At no point in history has the average person had more opportunity than in this current era.
Why then, does the human race appear to be more miserable than ever before (if you use rising medication rates for mental health conditions, lack of connectivity seen through declining birth rates in many developed countries and the increase in the cost of living with the associated difficulties this entails, as a yardstick for wellbeing)?
It’s my belief that this collective misery springs from one source – the societies we live in and their ever-increasing influence over our thoughts, decision making and choices.
Society lies to you.
It tells you there’s a tried and tested path to follow and that, if you do so, life will probably work out ok. However, as seen by the malaise referenced above, for a lot of people, this isn’t the case.
That’s why you need to be aware of the following 7 lies.
While on the surface they may appear to make sense, dig a little deeper and you’ll realise they’re nothing more than a recipe for a life of mediocrity and limitation.
Let’s start with the first lie we get told.
Both your parents and teachers will insist that the most important thing you can do in your childhood, and early adulthood, is score good grades both at school and in higher education.
This, they tell you, is the path to securing a good job and making lots of money (or enough money to prevent yourself from struggling through life).
Of course, such advice isn’t completely without merit.
It’s good to be educated. However, education without fostering independence of thought, and an understanding of WHY you’re acquiring knowledge, won’t lead to genuine happiness and success.
Sure, you can take your education and gain access to an array of better paid, and slightly less monotonous, uninspiring jobs, but an education alone is never going to unlock the doors to life fulfilment.
So, what should you do?
More important than your education, is finding something you’re passionate about and putting yourself on a path to be making a living from it in the not-too-distant future.
Make this quest the focus of your life and, as the years and decades pass, you’ll enjoy a level of freedom (and perhaps wealth) that those tied to the stressful and boring jobs their education has earned them, can only dream of experiencing.
We live in a materialistic age.
Whether it’s an advert on TV, an influencer on Instagram or a friend showing off their latest purchase, the message is the same. If you buy desirable products, your life will improve and you’ll feel happy.
It’s a message we must hear and see over 100 hundred times a day.
Through repetition, we become convinced by the logic of this credo.
Furthermore, there is some merit to the idea.
Buy a new car and you’ll feel great for a month. Eat some fast food and you’ll feel instantly satiated. Take a recreation drug and your mood will improve.
However, the problem with seeking happiness through consumption is that it NEVER lasts.
So, what should you do?
Seek happiness through creation.
Commit to the harder path.
Put all your energy into creating something (a book, an innovative product, a human life) that’s useful and brings joy to other people.
The reward you’ll experience will be long lasting and enrich your soul.
The mainstream media wants you to believe it’s a force for good.
It lets you know what’s going on in the world and provides you with an array of subjects with which you can hold interesting conversations.
While this may be partially true you must also understand that the media has an agenda and that the information it provides does not paint an accurate picture of the world.
What is this agenda?
Like any other corporation, media companies exist to make a profit.
Through decades of operating, they’ve discovered that the best way to achieve this aim is by presenting their audiences with a mix of fear and sensation.
Pursuing the truth, the ideal upon which journalism was formed, takes a back seat to audience manipulation.
So, what should you do?
Disengage from the mainstream media.
Reduce the amount of time you spend reading or watching the news, browsing the internet and avoid paying for too many subscription services or magazines.
This will help you disconnect from a world of fear, hate and materialism, creating more space in your mind to focus on the goals you want to achieve.
In western societies, Doctors and scientists are revered as Gods. Their word is final, whether they’re diagnosing an illness, delivering a prognosis or prescribing treatment.
Such status seems reasonable until you remember that doctors are humans and that humans are corruptible, sometimes power hungry and frequently influenced by ulterior motives.
Consider these stats.
So, what should you do?
Of all the lies society tells, this one is the most nuanced.
Doctors clearly do know a lot of answers and DO save numerous lives.
Ignoring them completely would be a foolish. However, placing ALL of your faith in their expertise and adopting an attitude that a doctor is there to “fix” you is also naïve.
YOU MUST TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR OWN HEALTH.
This doesn’t mean rejecting the best that modern medicine has to offer but it does mean prioritising your health in such a way that you reduce the likelihood of ever needing their help.
Politics, and access to political power, isn’t available to everyone.
You need lots of money to become an elected official, the kind of money that most individuals are unable to access.
So, in the US, those running for office must secure the backing of wealthy donors. (In the UK, it’s slightly different as although donors still play a role, members of parliament can sit on the boards of major corporations and receive a salary through holding these positions).
Where do you think these politicians loyalties lie?
It’s not with the people who voted them in. It’s with the individuals and organisations who funded them to appear on the ballot in the first place.
So, what should you do?
Don’t trust your government. It’s not going to help you through life or make the burden of living any more manageable (as this would run counter to the interests of its’ backers).
Instead, you need to educate yourself and become self-reliant.
Refuse to be mediocre (something society will encourage you to do).
Instead, begin strengthening both your character and finances so you’re able to deal with whatever challenges the system puts in your path.
For most people, working life is a cycle of boredom and stress, occasionally interspersed with moments of connection and satisfaction.
As a result, retirement is viewed by society as a watershed moment. It’s the point when you finally get to be free and enjoy yourself.
However, what happens when you get there?
You’ll discover that, because you traded your passions for security, you have little to stimulate you in your newfound free time.
Sure, you could always try doing something new but, because you’re older and burnt out from a lifetime of working a job you didn’t enjoy, you lack the energy to make it anything more than a hobby.
So, what should you do?
Never retire.
Better than that, never start working.
Confucius once said, “Choose a job you love, and you’ll never have to work a day in your life.”
If what you do with your days both stimulates you, and provides enough money to make a living, then why stop?
You get to continue the never-ending flow of learning, creating, improving and sharing, regardless of your age.
What could be better?
Society conditions you to conform and live with the belief that your life doesn’t matter.
Who are you compared to the mass of institutions, companies, countries and religions that exist?
Far better, for your own safety and prospects, that you keep your head down, obey the rules and don’t rock the boat.
However, is living this way really the path to a life of happiness and fulfilment?
I don’t believe it is.
You should want to make the most of your almost limitless potential.
In doing so, you’ll discover you’re far more powerful than you’ve been led to believe.
James Allen once said, “The dreamers are the saviours of the world.” An individual, or a collection of individuals, has been behind every major breakthrough in science, technology and civil rights the world has known.
YOU ARE POWERFUL.
Make sure you use your power, and use it for good.
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